There’s something about Miami Beach that always resets me. Maybe it’s the sunshine. Maybe it’s the waves. Maybe it’s the way good food just hits different when you’re on vacation celebrating someone you love. Whatever it is, Miami remains one of my foodie happy places, and this month’s trip reminded me exactly why.
Between a little rest, a little reflection, and a whole lot of eating, I discovered three spots worth talking about—two longtime favorites and one brand-new love that officially has me in a chokehold. Let’s get into it.
A New Favorite: Sazon Cubano
How did I come to Miami all these years and not know about Sazon Cubano? This was my first time stepping into this colorful, authentic Cuban spot for lunch, and let me tell you—I was instantly mad at myself for not coming sooner.
The vibe is classic Miami meets abuela’s kitchen: warm, lively, and filled with the aroma of garlic, citrus, and love. I ordered the seafood paella, the churrasco (marinated skirt steak grilled to perfection), and a classic mojito. I loved every single thing. The paella was loaded, flavorful, and comforting. The churrasco was tender, juicy, and seasoned just right. And that mojito? Exactly what a mojito should be: crisp, bright, and absolutely refreshing.
Sazon Cubano is officially on my “must return for dinner + live music” list. 10/10 would recommend.
The Letdown: Front Porch Café
Whew… this one hurt a little.
Front Porch Café used to be one of my Miami staples…the kind of place with a benedict you dream about long after vacation ends. So imagine my disappointment when I walked in and realized the magic was gone.
They’ve moved several blocks down Ocean Drive into a smaller location, and unfortunately, the quality went with the square footage. I ordered the crab cake benedict I once loved, only to receive lightly seasoned poached eggs perched on tiny crab cakes that were overcooked and underseasoned… with no English muffin. Where do they do that? My partner’s chicken and waffles were better – at least the bacon was cooked perfectly – but the chicken was not crispy. The audacity.
The service was slow, the energy was off, and even the bathrooms looked run-down. It just wasn’t the Front Porch I remembered, and that’s never fun to say about a place that once brought you joy.
Ending Strong: Call Me Gaby
Thankfully, Miami never lets me leave on a sad culinary note, and Call Me Gaby came through like a champ for my partner’s birthday dinner.
I love the eccentric decorAnd the soft lighting was a vibe
This restaurant remains one of the most charming, romantic spots in South Beach. Perfect for date nights, girls’ nights, or anytime you want to treat yourself to something delicious and beautifully done.
We ordered the Rita pizza, and let me just say: this might be one of the freshest, most flavorful pizzas I’ve ever had in my life. Truffle burrata, bosco mushrooms, sautéed bell peppers, prosciutto di Parma, shaved parmesan… it was luxurious, indulgent, and worth every bite.
Love how they provide the check in a Campbell’s soup can
We also tried the clam linguine (not as amazing as last time but still solid), the pappardelle bolognese (which we switched to bucatini), and a side of perfectly cooked asparagus. Chef’s kisses were in full effect.
Final Bite
Miami Beach never disappoints, even when one meal does. This trip reminded me of the joy of discovering new favorites, revisiting old ones, and savoring every moment in between. From mojitos to mushrooms to memories with my favorite people, it was exactly the reset I needed.
A country that had been on my “places to visit” list for more than a decade. A prayer request to do what I love most and get paid for it. A phone call that converged these two desires into a reality came on a Monday, and by Friday I was living in it.
The phone call came from a mentor and dear friend Juanita Britton, affectionately known as “Busy Bee.” A serial entrepreneur since childhood, she is most well-known for her successful retail businesses across the DMV (District, Maryland, Virginia), including a portfolio of more than a dozen airport stores. She also hosts an annual Holiday Gift & Art Show that attracts thousands of shoppers every year and manages an educational and cultural travel service company, which arranged the Cuba trip I wrote about last month. Oh and by the way, she also happens to be a Queen Mother in Ghana. Hence the pathway that led us to Trinidad…
How it all started
In October 2011, Juanita was officially enstooled as Queen Mother Botwe Nana Adobea II of Konko Village in the Eastern Region of Ghana, West Africa. She was bestowed this high honor through her non-biological connection with a family matriarch in Ghana known as a “King Maker.” Considering her extensive entrepreneurial success, in this role she is responsible for development projects and educational improvements for a community of nearly 600 citizens of Timber Nkwanta. Just in her short time as Queen Mother, she has helped to pave a 12-mile road there connecting her community with vital resources in other towns along the road, helped to build or fix nearly a dozen wells, and started a handful of businesses that are fostering economic development. She’s also supported the opening of a 3,000 sq foot library and medical post among other educational programs through Literacy Empowerment Action Project (LEAP) (By the way, they are in need of donations so if you’re looking for a great cause to support, consider donating!) On top of all that, she’s begun planning for a major festival that will further help to put this quaint town on the map, literally.
It was in this capacity as Queen Mother that she was invited to be part of the official welcoming and ceremonial cultural presentation for the Ashanti King of Ghana’s visit to the annual Pan African Festival commemorating the Emancipation Day celebration in Trinidad. Each year this major festival (only second to the festival of all festivals – Carnival) is held the last week of July, culminating on Emancipation Day, August 1. This day marks the day the enslaved Africans throughout the British Empire were liberated. Nearly 20,000 people from all over the Caribbean, Africa, and other countries across the world converge on the streets of Port of Spain, the capital of Trinidad and Tobago, to celebrate freedom and build a sense of identity and pride in their African roots. To sum up the experience in a few words…it was soul awakening.
The Home of Carnival
Upon arriving, we fully immersed ourselves in the Trinidad experience by indulging in some hot doubles, a local street food made of fried dough and curried chickpeas. I’m typically not into certain types of curry or chickpeas, but being the foodie that I am, you know I had to try! The verdict – delicious!
Next, we stopped by the Emancipation Village, also known as Queens Park Savannah, which is where most of the festival activities were held. It was here that I fell in love with the country and its people. From the talented vendors who sold their unique clothing, art, and food, to the performers who came from all sects of the African Diaspora to share their gifts with festival goers, it was truly a heart-warming and fulfilling experience.
Our Home in Trinidad
Our home for six days was the festival host hotel, the Hilton Trinidad & Conference Centre. Sitting on a hilltop, the hotel overlooks Queen’s Savannah Park where we spent most of our days, so the hotel couldn’t have been more convenient. Out of all the things I enjoyed about this hotel, it was the views for me. A long corridor connecting the main building to the towers in which we stayed offered a breathtaking view of the Trinidad skyline and gorgeous sunsets. On the other side of the corridor was the hotel’s expansive pool area. I would’ve slept in that hallway if I could have.
While the executive suite where we stayed was quite spacious and offered two bathrooms and two large balconies, the furniture and decor left much to be desired. The hotel in general is in need of some upgrades, but fortunately, everything was clean and the entire staff was kind, welcoming, and accommodating. I give them major kudos for that considering the hotel was at capacity due to the festival and several other big events happening in the area.
As far as food goes, breakfast was my favorite meal of the day. The hotel offers a complimentary buffet breakfast that includes an omelet station, an assortment of fruit & pastries, meats, and even brunch items like roasted vegetables. Even if you don’t normally eat breakfast, a piece of advice – don’t skip it here!
I couldn’t help but snap a shot of this beautiful red piano under the staircase leading to the hotel’s restaurant.As a side note, be sure to stop by Yardie Jerk & Barbecue while in town. This brother taught himself how to cook, and from the taste of his food, he is truly anointed!
Beach Bums
While Tobago, the smaller of the dual-island combo of Trinidad & Tobago is better known for its beaches, we ventured out to Maracas Beach on our free day. A scenic one-hour drive to the beach from Port of Spain led us through a beautiful rainforest, which turned out to be one of the best and more memorable highlights of this trip. In addition to amazing photo ops, we indulged in souvenirs and local treats from vendors along the narrow rainforest road.
Upon arriving at the beach, which is located on Maracas Bay between a collection of mountains, we couldn’t resist indulging in another popular local treat – bake and shark. The bake part is fried flatbread and the shark is, well, pretty self-explanatory. Yes, in this beautiful island country, they eat the shark, not the other way around. What does it taste like you may ask? A really yummy fish!
The Queen’s Court
I was blessed to be invited on this trip to serve as a communications liaison for Queen Mother Juanita, along with two other Ghanaian beauties who were assigned the roles of linguist and assistant. Upon arrival, we immediately deemed ourselves “The Queen’s Court.” It was our responsibility to make sure that she showed up on every occasion representing well, and we were grateful to do so.
But don’t get it twisted, the queen’s court was not all work and no play. We thoroughly enjoyed ourselves during our time off shopping in the village, sitting poolside at the hotel, and of course schmoozing at the lobby bar, the center of all the action. By the way, if you visit the Hilton Trinidad, be sure to grab a drink from my favorite bartender Micaiah and tip him well. He was awesome (not to mention easy on the eyes)! Tell him I sent you.
The King is Here!
Each year, a new dignitary from a country within the African Diaspora visits Trinidad for the purpose of experiencing how the continent is recognized and celebrated in this country. This trip for the Ashanti King Otumfuo Nana Osei Tutu II, known as the Asentehene, was no different. Arriving a few days before Emancipation Day, he received a grand welcome from the Ghanaian delegation in town for the festival at the hotel. From what I understand, on the spectrum of welcoming presentations, it was pretty low-key, but to me, it felt like I was in a real-life version of Coming to America. Though this movie would be called Coming to Trinidad (smile).
By the way, I can say that I had another first on this trip. I got to meet a real life King! Of course, his handlers wouldn’t allow photos, but having the memory etched in my brain is enough for me.
To prepare for this welcome, Queen Mother’s court went to work dressing her in the finest of Ghanaian kente cloth and footwear. What struck me most about documenting this experience was the level of care and respect that is offered in honoring these traditions and celebrating their heritage. From the undergarments to the jewelry, everything is placed and worn for a specific reason and communicates something different.
Let Freedom Ring
Of course, on Emancipation Day, the grand welcome and fanfare went up several notches. A red carpet was rolled out, dignitaries were escorted on stage according to their roles and positions, and the crowd assembled on the other side of the red carpet to take in the momentous occasion. The speaking program included a range of speakers from local leaders and organizers of the festival to the Prime Minister of Trinidad & Tobago and foreign diplomats. The nearly two-hour program celebrated a rich African history, while also educating the diverse crowd on lesser-known facts about the country’s challenges with overcoming the effects of slavery.
The speaking program was followed by a lively parade and street procession filled with dance troupes, trucks carrying steel pan bands and African drummers, and colorful Moko Jumbies (stilt walkers) dancing among the crowd. It was quite an experience to be in the mix of it all. The Pan-African Festival website articulates perfectly that it is “a profound experience of ancestral reverence and joyful celebration of the triumph of the human spirit over tyranny.” It truly lives up to its claim of being the best and biggest celebration of the continent outside of Africa.
If you are someone like me who has had the desire to visit Trinidad, specifically for Carnival, consider the Pan African Festival and Emancipation Day as an alternative, or in addition, if you have the coins to swing it. Not only will you get the excitement and spirit of the country, but you will also get a true immersion experience into the rich African culture that exists at its foundation.
Last month I started watching a show that left me questioning my whole life. That’s a pretty dramatic statement, but it’s also a bit accurate. I didn’t start watching it with any expectations or even with any context from a preview. I simply watched it because I heard the name of the show come up in three unrelated conversations so I took it as a sign I needed to give it a go. And boy am I glad I did. By the way, it’s safe to read this semi-review; no spoiler alerts are needed here. I am not giving anything away purposefully because if you haven’t watched it yet, you definitely should!
The show is called The Big Door Prize, and you can find it streaming on Apple TV. It falls into the comedy category; but don’t be fooled, it also forces you to think a lot. What I love about this show, as bizarre as it is at times, is that it is so real. It touches on some of life’s biggest questions that we’ve all asked ourselves at one point or another. Why am I here? What was I put here to do? What could I do if there were no limits? Which mostly are self-imposed…
The show also manages to point out how dangerously trusting we are of technology; yet, how that same technology has helped us in many profound ways. Additionally, it tackles how self-centered we tend to be as humans, while also emphasizing how compassionate we are when given the opportunity to operate as our best selves. (Heads up, you and I are the only ones stopping ourselves from operating as our best selves.) Lastly, it questions why we can’t be content with what is in the moment. Yet, it affirms how it’s also ok to want more for ourselves than what we once wanted. It also still managed to make me laugh out loud at least once every episode. Brilliant!
Lastly, what I found most intriguing about The Big Door Prize was that it was mostly unpredictable. And the times that it was predictable were definitely on purpose. That makes for some entertaining TV. The ending of the season left more questions than answers, which surprisingly left me hungry for more. It’s no surprise, however, that Apple quickly picked it up for a second season before the first season was complete.
Whether you are a TV watcher or not, I definitely recommend giving The Big Door Prize a shot. Even if you aren’t amused, at a minimum you will be encouraged to ask yourself some questions that might just generate some aha moments for your life. That’s certainly a prize worth winning.
What would you do if you knew EXACTLY what you COULD do? Which door would you CHOOSE?
I had a “Lessons in Gratitude” post all planned out. Thankfully, a retreat I attended interrupted my regularly scheduled programming.
We can make our own plans, but the Lord determines our steps.
Proverbs 16:9
This season of my life is driven by these words – “Listen. Trust. Obey.” This blog post is an attempt to honor the Holy Spirit’s directive.
I attended this retreat because 1) a wonderfully gifted girlfriend posted it on her social media and I knew whatever she was involved in was going to be amazing. And 2) candidly, it’s been a challenging season. I felt the spirit nudge me toward it because I desperately needed it. I believed it would be soul-nourishing, refreshing, and replenishing and indeed it was.
From my conversations with people from all generations, backgrounds, and genders lately, I’ve heard and felt a spirit of heaviness. And yes, even as an abundant life enthusiast who exudes peace, joy, and light, I can honestly say that I’ve felt this heaviness personally. So when the promotion for this retreat promised a day filled with intentional self-work, radical self-care, and revolutionary self-love, I said inwardly, yassss sign me up!
Our facilitator Jessica welcoming and introducing us to being SELF-ish’
There were many beautiful aha moments and nuggets that I took from this experience. I get the title of this retreat may be deceiving (I’ll get to that in a minute). But, immediately upon surrendering myself to the moment, I knew I wanted to pay it forward. Share all the yummy goodness that I received from it with my beloved tribe.
Of course, there is nothing like the power of experiencing something for yourself. But, let me share a few insights with you that I hope will have power for you, nonetheless.
In a vision book exercise facilitated by my friend Michelle McKinney who spoke at the event, I was instructed to look at all the roles I take on and operate in. Business owner, ministry leader, volunteer, travel consultant, public relations consultant, friend/family member, etc. (there’s a whole list chile). I realized the majority of these roles involved me giving a lot of my time, attention, and focus (thus, myself) to others. And that is not a bad thing. But, it wasn’t until I read her example role of self-caretaker that I realized I wasn’t on my own list of priorities. No wonder I felt so depleted.
My beautiful friend Michelle who gave an incredible workshop on vision casting.
If you are someone like me who often tries to pour from an empty cup, I have news for you. Your love and care for yourself need to be prioritized too. And I don’t just mean setting aside time for physical rest or pampering yourself with massages and pedicures here and there. Although those things can be a part of an amazing self-care regimen. I mean intentionally looking at yourself as a priority and asking, “what is it that I need to be and live out the best version of me?” Then make a commitment to yourself to do those things…consistently.
It was a year ago that I first did this exercise with Michelle’s Vision Playbook. (By the way, be sure to get yours, it’s amazing!) Clearly, I needed to be reminded of how important that CONSISTENTLY part was. I also had to recognize that as I grow, my challenges will manifest at the level of that growth. That means I have to be prepared to reevaluate what my self-care looks like regularly. Hence, the beauty of this retreat. The most powerful nugget I received was recognizing what this next level of caring for myself can and will look like.
As each person’s life and journey are uniquely different, I can imagine the myriad revelations that came out of this experience. But I’ll close with a few quotes and insights that encouraged me and supported my empowering aha moments. My hope is that at least one, if not all, will resonate with you in some way.
If I release the spirit of “should” and “have to” and replace them with “could” and “want to,” I can operate from an entirely new perspective that motivates and excites me.
Be yourself. Face yourself. Pace yourself. Healing starts within.
Everything I’m looking for is within me.
Setting boundaries and telling people no is not negative. It gives someone else another avenue and opportunity to be creative and make something happen for themselves.
Trust yourself and be kind to yourself.
Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Self-care is about taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.
Be patient with yourself and give yourself grace.
Wellness is my birthright!
You are better off than you think you are.
Whenever you’re doing the work growth is happening (whether you see it or not).
Just about a year ago, my favorite traveling buddy and I took a trip down US-29 to one of our favorite road trip destinations – Charlottesville, Virginia. Considering our affinity for fall foliage and our love of good vibes, views, and vino, our return trip was a no-brainer. (If you haven’t yet read or need a refresher on my blog post from our first visit, check out Time for Wine Part 1.)
Even if you aren’t wine aficionados like me and mom, don’t stop reading! This region, and even the wineries, in particular, have a lot to offer anyone who can appreciate the tranquility of the charming countryside. If you are looking for a quiet, hassle-free getaway with dope views and good vibes, Virginia Wine Country should be on your list.
Veritas Vineyards and Winery
Our first stop this time led us to Veritas Winery, which is in Afton, VA, about 20 minutes west of Charlottesville. Out of the four wineries I’ve been to in this area, I would rate this one #1 as far as total experience. Not only were the wines delicious, but the scenic views were breathtaking, and the friendliness of the staff and the overall warmth of the surroundings made Veritas feel like home. In addition to the inside fireplace, we also loved the fire pit stations looking out to the lawn and vineyard, which is where mom and I decided to set up shop for the day. And what a gorgeous fall day it was!
Now onto the vino! Each winery offers different tasting options. Most commonly they serve flights, which offer small amounts (typically 1-2 ounces) of a selection of wines to try. Veritas offered two different types of flights, called the Classic and Reserve, both serving 4 selections (two red and two white, or a rose replacing one of the whites). The Reserve was slightly higher in quality, so if you know us you can probably guess our choice. This time the Sauvignon Blanc stole my heart, so much so that it came home with me.
I absolutely loved the attention to detail they offered in the description of each selection in the flights, which they called Taste in Place. In fact, I found myself serving as our makeshift sommelier by reading aloud the detailed descriptions as we sipped, which mom and I both got a kick out of.
We also enjoyed the food menu, which consisted of an assortment of cheeseboards, sourdough toasts, salads, and sandwiches, to accompany our wine selections. They also allow you to bring in outside food and non-alcoholic beverages.
Last but not least, if you are a person like me who appreciates good photo ops, this place is a winner! From the flower-adorned vineyard to the tree-lined frame, this vineyard offers a little bit of everything for everyone.
Keswick Vineyards
This beautiful vineyard is located about 15 minutes from downtown Charlottesville in the heart of Virginia Wine Country. According to its website, it is “part of both the Monticello Wine Trail and the Route 231 Trail, a protected tourism corridor running along the Southwest Mountains and proclaimed as one of the most beautiful drives in America.”
Keswick has an expansive vineyard, which made for some great photo ops as well.
It also happens to have the best of all the wines I tasted during my visits to the region thus far. At the other wineries, I loved one wine and enjoyed the rest, but I loved every one of the Keswick wines I selected. One of the things I appreciated most about this winery was that it offered build-your-own flights. The tastiness of all the wines made it difficult to choose, but the red medium-bodied Norton was the ultimate winner for me. I recommend the Viognier here for anyone who prefers sweet wine.
This winery doesn’t have many substantial food options, so bringing in your own food is ideal if you want to spend a day there. They offer light snacks like an assortment of cheese and chocolate, and they just so happen to have the best white cheddar popcorn we’ve ever tasted. You’re welcome!
Additionally, I want to offer a special shout-out to Ron, who assisted us. He offered mom a few complimentary tastes in order to select her glass of wine, and even made a special blend for her.
It’s also important to note that we visited this winery on a particularly crisp fall day and they did not have fire pits or a working fireplace at the time. Sitting in the sun made the cooler fall temps more bearable, but we also had to compete with some pretty aggressive bees for the sun. By the time we return, they plan to have their heated glass-enclosed area in place and a propane refill for their outdoor fireplace.
Considering there are more than 40 wineries in the area, we still have a lot of ground to cover, but we’re happy to continue to do the research for you. Stay tuned for part three coming soon!
Do you know where the Holy City is? Transparently, I didn’t know prior to visiting Charleston, South Carolina that it bared that nickname. Apparently, it’s one of those IYKYK (if you know, you know) things, and I appreciated that it was one of the many new things I learned while visiting.
If you’re anything like me your next question might be a derivative of why in the world is it called the Holy City? I’m glad you asked. It leads me to the first of the many things I loved about this beautiful Lowcountry city that has become over time one of the top travel destinations in the world.
1. Soak in the rich history.
The first thing to note about Charleston is that it is steeped in history. I would be remiss if I did not acknowledge that much of that history is marred by the city’s significant role in the slave trade. Trust me, that fact is not lost on me as an African American woman. Nevertheless, somewhat ironically, this city is also well known for its role as a safe haven for those seeking religious tolerance and freedom. Hence the name, the Holy City. This was one of the many things I appreciated learning while enjoying a horse-drawn carriage ride around the city, one of the popular things I recommend doing while visiting. Prepare to be educated and entertained! On this tour, we had an opportunity to survey the beautiful architecture of historic churches and synagogues that are prevalent in the historic downtown area, also known as The Peninsula. It was also super cool to see in person the strikingly beautiful signature pastel homes for which Charleston is also well known.
2. Delight in delectable cuisine.
Over the years Charleston has also become quite the popular culinary destination. In fact, it was a major reason for me and my favorite travel partner’s visit. Being the foodies that we are, Charleston got a bump up on our travel list because of Little Jack Tavern’s award-winning burger. This delicious treat won the South Beach Food and Wine Festival’s Burger Bash that we attended in 2017 and we were hooked from there. Don’t judge us until you try it.
We quickly found that the burger was just the tip of the iceberg of all the award-winning restaurants this foodie town has to offer. We had the best beef brisket of our lives at Lewis Barbecue, the most delicious vegetable risotto I’ve ever had at Eli’s Table, and the absolutely delicious she-crab soup at Fleet Landing. I also recommend trying the shrimp and grits and biscuits at Toast. You won’t be disappointed.
We did have one dining experience that is worth noting was mediocre at best. We heard mixed reviews from locals about Hyman’s Seafood. Some said it was a must-try, while others deemed it an unworthy tourist trap. After visiting, I’m inclined to say that it was the latter. I know that there are much better restaurants to visit and I’m looking forward to trying them on my next trip.
Litttle Jack’s Tavern award-winning burgerThe delicious rissoto at Elis TableMouth-watering beef brisket at Lewis BarbecueScrumptious shrimp and grits at Toast
3. Spend a day at the beach.
Spend a day at the beach. As beach bums, we were excited to learn that Charleston has a nice selection of beaches. We opted to visit Isle of Palms based on a recommendation from a friend and the concierge at our hotel. I understand Folly Beach is nice as well.
I recommend if you want to spend a day there, schedule your beach chair and umbrella rental with Isle of Palms Beach Chair Rental. When they ask you where you want your chairs to be set up, tell them in front of Coconut Joe’s. This will allow you to be close to the public restrooms and you can enjoy lunch or beach drinks at this fun waterfront restaurant and bar.
4. Enjoy the live music.
Being the live music lovers that mom and I are, we were also drawn to the city for its diverse live music scene. We were happy to find that the weekend we visited, Forte Jazz Lounge was featuring a Motown hits show. Amazing! In addition to the phenomenal band, we enjoyed watching the audience members cut a rug on the dance floor.
We were also pleasantly surprised to be serenaded by a saxophonist and keyboardist during our delicious dinner on the patio at Eli’s Table. That contributed to one of our favorite dining experiences during our visit.
Listening to the dope duet featured at Eli’s Table
5. Partake in diverse shopping experiences.
If you love to shop, you’ll be in heaven on King Street. This bustling strip has everything from top name-brand stores and high-end specialty shops to one-of-a-kind boutiques and antique stores. It also boasts some of the city’s best restaurants.
We also enjoyed spending time perusing the unique crafts, artwork, souvenirs, jewelry, and other specialty items at the Old City Market. I was excited to get back home to try some of the spices I bought there.
Here are some other insider tips that are useful to know about Charleston as you plan your visit.
When to visit: We visited in the heart of the summer when the humidity was at its highest and the mosquitos and flies were the most aggressive. If you prefer milder temps, I recommend visiting March – May or September – November. However, this is also when hotel rates are the highest.
Where to stay: We thoroughly enjoyed our stay at the Hilton Club Liberty Place. What I loved most was the low-key, homey feel and its location. I liked not being situated in the hustle and bustle of the downtown area, while also being a nice 15-20 minute stroll (if not visiting in the summer) or a less than 10-minute ride away.
Getting around: We found that taxis were pretty much on par with rideshares to and from the airport, but for the shorter distances Uber was less expensive and more convenient. We also found that to be the case for our drive to the beach, which was a 30-minute ride each way.
Try out the Pedicab: Pedicabs, or bike taxis, are ideal if you want to travel short distances in the downtown area. It was very convenient, especially during the summertime when the Lowcountry heat can be treacherous. It is also a super cool experience, and might I also add, eco-friendly.
Check out the Hot List: We appreciated a Hotlist sheet of places courtesy of Eli’s Table. One of the great finds on this list was the rooftop experience at the Market Pavilion Hotel. It is listed as Grill 225 under upscale dining recommendations, which was a little too stuffy for our taste, but the rooftop area is a whole different vibe. It is open to the public, despite an intimidating entrance into the extremely formal lobby, and boasts spectacular views of the city, tasty signature drinks, and sexy summer vibes. It’s definitely a must-visit in my book!
We all want it, but what does it really mean? Joy, that is. Real joy. It’s an easy one, right? We probably don’t even have to Google it. It is simply a heightened state of happiness. Webster defines it as “the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires.” That sounds pretty awesome, right?
So what happens when we don’t get what we desire, or worse, we lose the prospect of possessing what we desire? Does that mean we can’t have joy? Hmmm…
I’ve got some good news. The answer is no! We can absolutely have joy, no matter the circumstance. You may be thinking, now how does that work? I’m glad you asked.
I’m grateful that I have access to joy at any time and in any place because the source of my joy is rooted in the one who created it. He is always near, and present. And in His presence is the fullness of that joy.
You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16:11 ESV
Some reading this may say ok that sounds really cute and spiritual and all, but how does that play out in real life? When I’ve lost someone or something dear to me, or when I’m exhausted and weighed down by the cares of life, how do I experience joy?
I believed it’s wrapped in the promises that God has given us. But the truth is, if we don’t really know Him or His word, how can we find true joy in who He is and these promises He offers? He has promised that He will never leave us or forsake us, He will strengthen us, He will comfort us and bring us peace, and most importantly, if we believe in Him He’s offered us the greatest promise there is – salvation.
Am I saying that those who intimately know Him and His promises never experience sadness or disappointment or anger or frustration? No, everyone feels those things at some point in their lives, if they live long enough. The good news is that when we feel those things, we can be comforted by the joy that is found deep in our souls from believing in and knowing Him.
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope. Romans 15:13 ESV
That’s the type of joy that I need and want. Not the circumstantial joy that the world offers. No, I want the joy that’s found in the comfort of the Lord.
Five years ago I had an aha moment regarding joy that I often return to when I find myself slipping to a low place. In fact, I wrote a blog post about it called “A Lesson in Joy.” As I was preparing that post, I came across a definition of joy that speaks to the heart of God’s intention. The definition of joy offered by Theopedia (think Wikipedia for Christianity) states “joy is a state of mind and an orientation of the heart. It is the settled state of contentment, confidence, and hope.”
That joy is not dependent upon my circumstances or the fickleness of my emotions or feelings. It’s the joy that comes from the Lord that lifts me when life feels heavy. It’s the joy of the Lord that comforts me when my anxious thoughts get the best of me. It’s the joy that is embedded in my heart, mind, and soul by the Holy Spirit that brings me peace that surpasses all understanding.
We’ve all traveled down this road at least once in our lives. It’s a road that is so enticing, yet leads to nowhere. In fact, if we’re honest with ourselves, the road doesn’t even exist. That road, my friends, is called “What If” road.
You know that road that begins with “what if I had chosen differently?” Or “what if I had said this instead of that?” Or “what if I hadn’t said anything at all?” Or “what if I had just waited instead of reacting impulsively?”
If you are someone who journals like me, you probably also know the benefit of reviewing those journal entries. (Hello, I wrote a whole book about it entitled God Doesn’t Make Mistakes!) I went back to a journal entry from two years ago where I found myself traveling down that all too familiar road. I started to ponder on what my life would have been like if I had made a different choice in a particular situation. Admittedly the last time I went down that road, I found anxiety and regret at the end of it. I created all these scenarios in my head of this beautiful life I would have lived had I chosen differently. It made me sick to my stomach to think about how I had ruined my happily ever after because I made a choice driven by my own sins and ignorance.
I’m sure I don’t have to tell you how dangerous it can be to continue down that road. The truth is we will never see all the myriad results that might have come from making one different move. We don’t even know if that different choice would have led to a better life or outcome. And here’s an even more empowering truth. God has factored all of our choices, free will, mistakes, etc. into His good purpose and plan for our lives. And since we’re still living, He’s not done with those plans yet.
I know, here I go getting all spiritual again but stay with me. One of the most beautiful things about having a personal relationship with God is that He is always with us. He’s constantly leading us and guiding us. And even when we stumble, He’s there to catch us and set us back on the path He has for us.
Though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with his hand.
Psalm 37:4
I believe God allows us to make certain choices, or what we may perceive as mistakes, so that we can learn. Sometimes it’s to grow us and prepare us for what’s ahead. Sometimes it’s to give us a heart check so we can make the necessary adjustments to live and love more like Christ. Whatever the reason is for God allowing us to make the choices we make, He uses it all for our good and His glory.
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28
When he says all things, that means the good, the bad, and the ugly. That’s what keeps my spirits lifted when I realize in hindsight that I could have made a more wise decision. I’m grateful to serve a God of grace and mercy.
If you find yourself traveling down that What If Road that leads to nowhere, I want you to remember these three things.
God is using your perceived failure for your good.
Your story is not over yet.
What God has for you is still for you.
My friend, when you begin to question how your mistakes may have ruined God’s good plans for you I pray that you are comforted by these wonderful promises from our Father. Trust me, He’s got a very real, beautiful road ahead for you. Follow Him.
I didn’t really want to write on this topic, yet here I am. The fact that I couldn’t stop thinking about it is an indication that I needed to speak on it.
A few months ago someone made a statement that generated a lot of opinions all over social media, and even traditional media. Who spoke these words is inconsequential; what’s most important is how many others believe these words as truth.
“If you have made it to 35 and you are unmarried, you are a leftover woman. You are what is left. Men know that there is likely something wrong with you.”
I was listening to a radio show one day and I heard the audio clip of this statement followed by the opinions of both men and women chiming in on its validity. Let me be clear, I was not shocked when I heard the words from the audio clip. I was used to these types of statements from this individual, which is why I chose not to follow him. However, I was most taken aback by the women’s voices I heard sounding off in agreement with him.
I heard many opinions, all of which I took with a grain of salt, yet I attempted to hear each one with an open mind. But then I heard the voice of a mother of a 35-year-old daughter who agreed that her daughter was one of those leftover women. In fact, she had shared with her daughter that she was essentially a lost cause to be a wife because she hadn’t married yet. Her words stopped me in my tracks.
As a woman who is over the age of 35 and unmarried, of course, I have my own opinion on this statement. And while my blog would be a great place to share this opinion, I’m choosing to offer something a little different. Because I am not just an unmarried woman over the age of 35, I’d like to offer some truth as a child of God. I speak as someone who believes in and follows the only perfect man who walked this Earth, and I believe this perspective is missing from the conversation.
Romans 3:23 says that we have all sinned and we all fall short of the glory of God. Let’s be clear, there is something “wrong” with all of us, even those who have been chosen by a spouse. That’s why we all need Jesus, married or not.
Imperfect as we are, we are also fearfully and wonderfully made masterpieces of the Lord, our Creator. Each of us has a unique journey and plan that God knows and orchestrates from the beginning to the end. And whether that journey includes a spouse or several spouses or no spouse over the course of one’s life, it has no bearing on someone’s value.
Lastly, we have free will and we can make our own plans, but God has the final say. He determines our steps. Not everyone has the same journey, timetable, or plans for their life. And only God knows the when, the why, and the how. That means that it is not up to us to judge or condemn people based on where they are at any single moment in life.
While I know who and whose I am, it doesn’t make controversial statements Iike the one shared above any easier for me to digest. I can only imagine what it must have felt like for someone to hear this statement and trust it as a truth about themselves.
The truth is our words have power. They can bring life or death, build up or tear down, create or destroy. That’s why we must be careful what we choose to speak over the lives of others and also what we choose to believe as the truth about our own. It matters.
After visiting Cartagena I can see clearly now why it is one of South America’s most visited cities. As this was my first time visiting Colombia, and the continent for that matter, I figured I’d see exactly what people have been raving about. I was charmed almost immediately, and the more I experienced, the more I wanted to taste a little more. (Keep reading to learn more about why I say almost immediately.)
Located on Colombia’s Caribbean coast, for me, it had the energy I love most about experiencing a new destination – sprawling beaches, lovely people, amazing food, and a unique vibe all its own. A city so rich in history, culture, and beauty, it’s hard to even know where to begin. So, my review will commence with our home for seven days.
Accommodations
Consulting with a Cartagena native as I was planning my trip helped me tremendously in determining the best place to stay. I absolutely adored the charming Walled city, which I’ll talk about later, but I’m grateful I didn’t stay in any of the hotels located inside the wall. Being the “water girl” that I am, I enjoyed having the prime ocean views of the Bocagrande neighborhood, while also being close enough to the walled city to travel there by taxi easily and inexpensively.
Our living area looking out to prime ocean views.
We stayed at the Hyatt Regency Cartagena, one of the city’s nicest hotels. In addition to the location, the rooming options were also a factor. This is one of the very few hotels that offer residences with multiple bedroom suites, which worked out perfectly for my family. At times feeling more like a resort, the Hyatt Regency offers four swimming pools (one of them designated for children), a world-class spa and fitness center, and two restaurants and bars.
As the multiple bedroom options were part of the residences, we enjoyed a separate living and dining area, a full kitchen, and a private balcony boasting high-rise views of the city. Note, if you have an issue with heights, the residences are all on the top 17 floors of the 40-story building. For a frame of reference, the lobby is on the 12th floor, so it only goes up from there!
Views from the 40th floor balconyViews from the 40th floor balcony
Speaking of heights, I loved everything about this hotel – the location, the classiness, cleanliness, the pools, the customer service – but the elevators. One set of elevators took you to the lobby and another set of elevators took you to your rooms. That wouldn’t have been so bad if when trying to leave the 40th floor, the elevator would not let you go to any other floor but 15. That meant we had to take three separate elevators down every time we wanted to leave the hotel. Super annoying, but that’s also what happens when you have fancy elevators!
The Walled City
I believe this is where most of the magic lies in Cartagena, hence why we spent a lot of time there. This is probably also why a lot of travelers opt to book a hotel in this area of the city. It depends on what your priorities are. The architecture is unbelievable. If you stay in this part of the city, it’s likely that your hotel, mostly boutique, and luxury, will be a refurbished mansion from more than 200 years ago. The best shopping, restaurants, nightlife, art, and photo ops are inside the walls…and you’re going to pay for it if you choose to stay here. This part of town has more expensive accommodations than the city’s other neighborhoods, including Bocagrande’s beachfront hotels where we stayed. But it’s important to note that your American dollars will take you very far in Colombia. More on that later.
There’s a lot of history here, and while fascinating, I won’t get into it all. Just know that this historic part of the city, also known as the “old city”, is enclosed by 400-year-old fortified stone walls. Spanning eight miles, they were built to protect the city from pirate attacks. I definitely recommend one of the walking tours to learn more about the history of this gorgeous city and the diverse people that make up its culture.
Today this section of Cartagena, lined with narrow cobblestone streets and uniquely stunning architecture, boasts beautiful plazas filled with street vendors, artists, and musicians at nearly every corner. Visiting during the day offered a completely different, yet equally enjoyable experience than visiting during the night so I recommend indulging in both!
Aside from the food experiences, which I’ll get to next, I was most blown away by the art. There were so many beautiful pieces lining the streets I was overwhelmed. I literally wanted to take all of them home with me! And I’m not just talking about the paintings for sale, the mural-filled walls were breathtaking as well.
The cuisine
When I heard that Cartagena was a foodie town, I was sold even more on the idea of visiting. And let’s just say, Cartagena did not disappoint! This is not a comprehensive list but here’s a quick rundown of some of my favorite experiences:
Celele: This quaint, charming restaurant was my absolute favorite food experience in Cartagena. And I was grateful to experience it for lunch on my actual birthday. Happy Birthday to me! I recommend trying multiple shared appetizers and getting different entrees. You definitely want to taste as much of this yummy goodness as you can!
Casa Don Luis: This was one of the few restaurants we went to that served something other than Colombian food. This fine-dining Italian experience was created by the ambiance as much as it was the food.
La Vitrola: This intimate restaurant in the heart of the Walled City was perfect for my birthday dinner. We enjoyed not only a tasty meal but authentic, live music! This classic old-school restaurant received five stars in my book!
Street Food: You can’t go to Cartagena without enjoying piping hot arepas from the street vendors. They are small “cakes” made with ground corn dough filled with your choice of cheese or meat (typically chicken or beef). Occasionally they are served with an egg inside. They are delicious and super cheap!
Arepas from a street vendorBe sure to grab some fresh coconut waterFresh mangoes with salt and lemon
The Beaches
Transparently, Bocagrande beach is not one of the best beaches I’ve been to, by Caribbean standards. However, not all of the beaches in Cartagena are created equally. That’s why I was grateful for the experience of visiting one of the islands off the coast of the mainland. The Rosario Islands came highly recommended, but we ended up going to Tierra Bomba Island, which I thoroughly enjoyed!
Many of the islands offer day passes where locals or visitors who are staying on the mainland can experience the amenities of the resort without having to stay overnight. Tierra Bomba was a quick 15-minute boat ride away and offered a completely different experience from the city vibes offered on the mainland.
We lounged at the Eteka Hotel Boutique and Slow Beach Lounge, which was a whole vibe! The food here was delicious as well. If you are a beach bum like me, having this experience is a must while visiting Cartagena.
As you can see, there’s a lot to love about this beautiful city. And I’m sure I didn’t see the half. You know what that means…a return visit is necessary!
Here are some other important things to note:
Getting there: I mentioned earlier that I was charmed by the city almost immediately. I stated that because we had a not so great experience at the airport arriving from the United States. I don’t know if this happens often or if our experience was an anomaly, but it took us hours to even make it into the airport after landing. We deboarded the plane outside on the tarmac and had to wait in a long line to go through immigration. This forced us to stand outside in the heat for at least an hour. In case our experience was not an anomaly, be sure to dress in layers you feel comfortable removing and have plenty of bottled water! Also note: At the time of our travel in February, full vaccination was required for U.S. travelers.
Currency. At the time of visiting, the exchange rate of US dollars to Colombian pesos was approximately 1 to 3500. As a reference point, our 10-minute taxi rides to the Walled City from our hotel were 10,000 pesos each way. That means we were spending roughly $3 each way. Pretty awesome!
Safety: Cartagena in general is one of the safest places to visit in Colombia. As with any type of international travel, beware of your surroundings and be smart with where you carry your money. Also, some of the street sellers and musicians can get pretty aggressive walking up to you and hassling you to pay them for their service or trinkets. The best thing to do is to give them a firm no and keep it moving.
Language: While many of the locals spoke some English, especially in the brick and mortar stores and restaurants, it’s a little hard to navigate if you do not speak Spanish. Many of the street vendors did not speak English or spoke very little, which makes it very difficult to negotiate. Visiting with our own Colombian, Spanish-speaking guide was very helpful to our experience.
When in Cartagena be sure to try aguardiente, which might be described as Colombia’s version of tequila.
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