Slow Down, Young Blood: 10 Truths About Rushing Adulthood

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Have you ever said to yourself, why did I ever rush to get here? And by here I mean adulthood. When we’re young, being “grown” seems like the ultimate goal—a magical land where freedom reigns, and all your dreams come true. But now that I’ve made it here, I’ve got some advice for my younger self. Here are 10 things I’d say to the younger me who couldn’t wait to grow up and the younger generation currently saying, “I can’t wait until…”

1. Adulthood Isn’t Just Freedom—It’s Responsibility

Yes, you’ll get to make your own choices, but every decision comes with consequences. From managing time to choosing a partner, freedom is a package deal with responsibility. And who knew that bills would be relentless? Rent/mortgage, utilities, insurance, car maintenance—they all come due, and they don’t pause just because you’re having a bad month. Budgeting isn’t optional; it’s survival.

2. Enjoy the Time You Have Now

Those endless summer breaks and lazy weekends? You’ll miss them. Once you start working, time off feels rare, so cherish the carefree days while you can. When you’re young, time feels endless. As an adult, weeks blur into months, and years rush by. Make time for the things that truly matter because they will disappear faster than you realize. All good things do come to an end.

3. It’s Okay Not to Have Everything Figured Out

No matter how much planning you do, life often has its own agenda. Feeling lost or unsure about your career, relationships, or goals is more common than you’d think. The key is learning to embrace the journey instead of obsessing over the destination.

4. Cherish Your Friendships

Friends change as life gets busy, but childhood bonds are special. Make memories, share laughs, and enjoy the moments when you can spend hours together without worrying about schedules. As you age, your childhood friends won’t always be a text away. Careers, families, and distance create barriers, so maintaining meaningful friendships requires effort, scheduling, and lots of understanding.

5. Your Body Will Thank You for Taking Care of It Now

At some point, your body will send you “maintenance required” alerts. Gone are the days when you could survive on junk food and bounce back after a late night. Your body demands attention—regular exercise, balanced meals, rest, and yes, those annual checkups. Start healthy habits early—your future self will thank you.

6. Success Doesn’t Equal Happiness

Reaching milestones—whether it’s a promotion or buying a house—won’t automatically make you happy. Neither will chasing wealth. True joy often lies in the little things: meaningful relationships, personal growth, and moments of peace.

7. Comparison Is the Thief of Joy

Social media and societal expectations can make you feel like you’re behind in life. Remember, everyone’s journey is unique, and the timeline isn’t the same for everyone. Your journey is uniquely yours so BE GRATEFUL for each chapter in your beautiful story that God has written.

8. Growth Never Stops…You Will Never “Arrive”

I hate to break it to you, but learning will continue past your formal education. In fact, adulting requires constant discovery—whether it’s professional skills, relationship dynamics, or how to how to navigate a new phase of life. The most important thing you will learn is yourself—your likes and dislikes, what healthy boundaries you need to set with others, and how to be unapologetically you while evolving into the best version of yourself.

9. Failure Is Part of Growth

Adulthood comes with setbacks, and that’s okay. Failing doesn’t mean you’re a failure; it means you’re learning. Be kind to yourself and keep moving forward.

10. Adulthood Will Come Soon Enough—Savor the Now

You’ll be an adult for the majority of your life, so why rush it? Appreciate the simplicity of where you are now. Play, dream, and embrace the freedom to just be.

Adulthood isn’t a destination; it’s an ongoing process of growth, resilience, and discovery. While it can be overwhelming at times, it’s also filled with moments that make the journey worthwhile.

Dear younger me, adulthood has its perks, but so does being young. The future will be here soon enough—don’t forget to live and find joy in each moment you have NOW.

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The Present Matters

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In 2022 Mom and I started what has now become an annual tradition of spending the month of January on a beautiful little island country named Anguilla. To say that it is completely restorative and refreshing would be accurate, and also an understatement. This time away has become necessary for my overall well-being.

It is during these retreats I have been the most reflective and in turn, inspired. On this trip, I have thought a lot about what it means to be present. To me, it means being fully attuned and connected to the moment of now. 

Mom taking a moment to soak in all the beautiful scenery in Anguilla, even on a cloudy day.

The time away, which consists of longer periods spent disconnected from technology, always allows me to savor the “right now” moments in my life. In fact, we can call this blog post a Part 2 to Right Now, a post I wrote two years ago almost to the day. As I reflect on the contribution that our devices have had on our growing inability to appreciate the present, I can’t help but consider how we got here.

For a moment it seemed that the global shutdown helped us in that it forced us to interact more with our loved ones at home. However, one of the many ways that it did more harm than good is that it reinforced and exacerbated our deep dependence on technology.  

We have become so tethered to technology that many of us have forgotten how to be with each other. We use our devices as a crutch during silent moments. Our conversations are often interrupted by the sudden pings of not just our phones, but our smartwatches, which keep us constantly “connected.” Sadly, however, we’ve never been more disconnected. Our fixation with our gadgets has in many ways made introverted people more introverted and even caused extroverts to become introverted. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not criticizing introversion. But when it happens at the expense of our abilities as humans to communicate with each other and appreciate what is happening right in front of us “offline,” Houston, we have a problem.

How did we get here?

One click…

One like…

One text…

One post…

One binge…

One emoji…

One reel…

At a time.

So how do we coexist with and benefit from technology while also remaining present to and focused on the beautiful moments in front of us? It probably looks different for each person, but I’ll start with a few of my own new habits.

  1. Setting boundaries around my technology. This includes keeping my phone on silent, only answering or responding during designated times throughout the day, and not letting every little ping interrupt me from what I’m focused on in the moment. It might even include at some point purposely leaving my phone behind at times. *Insert Gasp here.*
  2. Asking myself, “What is the present moment inviting me to notice or be aware of?” Searching for the beauty in each moment we get here on Earth helps me to value each minute I have. I’ve found most times, I don’t have to look very far for the beauty around me. It’s often in the people I’ve been overlooking when my face is buried in one of my devices.
  3. Changing scenery every so often. Going away to places like Anguilla is awesome, but not practical for everyday living. I’ve found that even just working from a new place in my house from time to time gives me a newfound perspective. And with a newfound perspective comes another opportunity to see hidden gems around me.

I always thought wasting time was about doing something pointless or unnecessary. Now I see the worst type of time wasted is experiencing each precious day on Earth that we’ll never get back again and not being fully present to the beauty of the things and the people around us.

We’ve seen movies and TV shows that point to the threat of technology completely taking over our lives. And yet, we seem to be completely unbothered by the fact that fiction is slowly but surely becoming our truth. 

So how do we fix it? I’m not here to judge or attempt to provide an answer because truth is, I’ve certainly been complicit in technology’s takeover. It’s a rhetorical question, but one I hope encourages all of us to ponder the individual roles we have in reclaiming our gift of the present. Because it is, in fact, a gift; and it matters to our humanity.