You Prayed for This

“You are currently living in at least one of the prayers you used to pray.”

Let that sink in for a moment.

I recently stopped myself mid-rant/pity party and considered this quote that I turn to when I get whiny or restless.

So often, we spend our lives reaching for the next thing—a new job, a bigger house, a different relationship, a breakthrough that hasn’t come yet. And while there’s nothing wrong with setting goals or striving for growth, there’s a danger in living life on a treadmill of “what’s next?” Eventually, we can miss the sacredness of what’s now.

We pray, we wait, we hope, and then it happens. The promotion comes through. The relationship begins. The doors open. But instead of sitting in awe of God’s faithfulness, we often pivot into stress, discontent, or even complaints about the very thing we once begged for. The new job brings more pressure. The home brings larger expenses and more responsibilities. The relationship comes with its own set of challenges and demands. Before long, we find ourselves back in “chase mode,” yearning for something different.

Paul offers timeless wisdom in Philippians 4:11–12 when he says, “I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content… I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation.” Paul’s words weren’t written from a place of comfort. They were penned in prison. And yet, his peace came not from what he had, but from the God he trusted.

Gratitude is more than a feeling; it’s a discipline. One, I’ve had to develop myself. That’s why it is the signature message of my Golden Life Gear line. It requires us to pause, reflect, and acknowledge the miracle in the mundane. It’s the conscious decision to be present in what God has already done before rushing into what we think should be next.

So today, take inventory. What do you have now that you once prayed for? What answered prayers have become background noise in the busyness of your life? Maybe it’s the child you once dreamed of, the career you worked so hard to build, or the healing you almost didn’t believe was possible.

Honor those blessings. Sit with them. Say thank you. Because a grateful heart doesn’t just glorify God…it also grounds you in the goodness of your now moment.

And that, friends, is golden.

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Set Apart

Isn’t it incredible how two people raised under the same roof can turn out so completely different? Even twins, who share the same DNA, often have distinct personalities, dreams, and life experiences. That’s not an accident; it’s by divine design. 

From the very beginning, God crafted each of us with unique intentions in mind. Before you even took your first breath, He set you apart for a purpose (Jeremiah 1:5).

So why do we so often fall into the trap of comparison?

We scroll through curated social media feeds, measure our milestones against others, and wonder if we’re falling behind. We feel pressure to emulate someone else’s path, thinking their version of success is the gold standard. But here’s the truth: God never asked you to copy anyone. He called you to be you. The world thrives on sameness, but Heaven celebrates distinction.

Romans 12:2 reminds us not to conform to the patterns of this world, but to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. That means letting go of the urge to compete, compare, or conform. Instead, it’s an invitation to align with God’s will for your life — one that’s tailor-made for you, filled with purpose, and rooted in authenticity.

When you embrace being set apart, you begin to see your differences as strengths rather than shortcomings. You realize that your voice, your vision, and your values matter. You were created to bring something to this world that no one else can. That doesn’t mean the road will always be easy. In fact, standing out can sometimes feel lonely or misunderstood. But don’t let that discourage you. You’re not alone…you are chosen.

It’s time to silence the noise of comparison and tune in to what God is saying about you. You don’t need to fit a mold when you were meant to break it. Walk boldly in your uniqueness. Trust that your journey, no matter how different or unconventional it may seem, is exactly what God intended.

You’ve been set apart for such a time as this.

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Still Got Joy?

Remember when we talked about choosing joy? That deep, unshakeable kind that doesn’t flinch when life acts up? Let’s take it a step further—because choosing joy is one thing, keeping it is another.

Joy isn’t fragile, but it does need care. The world will throw shade, noise, chaos, and even hate at you like it’s trying to knock the smile off your face. But here’s the good news: you’ve got the tools to hold on tight.

It’s in the little things—those quiet moments with God, the belly laughs with your people, the breath between the battles where you remember, “Oh yeah, I’ve still got my joy.”

You don’t have to fake it. Just feed it.

Because real joy doesn’t run. It roots. And no matter what comes, it can still rise.

Be the Light

The holiday season is a time for joy and celebration, but for many, it can also be a time of loneliness, struggle, or pain. As we celebrate the season, it’s important to remember that the love and kindness of Christ are needed more than ever. You never know what someone may be going through, and you might just be the only glimpse of Christ they see.

The Power of Simple Acts of Kindness

In the busy days leading up to Christmas, it’s easy to get caught up in shopping and to-do lists. But let’s not forget the power of simple acts of kindness. A warm smile, a thoughtful word, or a helping hand can make someone feel seen and valued. In Matthew 25:40, Jesus reminds us, “Whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” Every act of kindness is an opportunity to serve Him.

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Loving Others as Christ Loved Us

The true meaning of Christmas isn’t in gifts or decorations but in the love we show others. Christ came to Earth not for the perfect, but for the broken. He embraced people’s flaws with love, and we are called to do the same. In John 13:34-35, Jesus commands, “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” Loving others—especially those who may be hard to love—is how we reflect Christ’s heart.

This holiday season, many people face pain—whether it’s from loss, financial strain, or personal struggles. By offering love, patience, and understanding, we show them the kindness of Christ. Your love could be the lifeline someone needs to get through tough times.

Being a Light in Someone’s Darkness

We are called to be a light in the world, especially during dark times. In Philippians 2:15, Paul writes, “Shine among them like stars in the sky.” As you encounter people this season, remember that your light may be the only one they see. Reach out to those who might be silently suffering—whether it’s a friend, a coworker, or a neighbor. Offer your presence, your prayers, or simply your ear. In doing so, you reflect the love of Christ in a world that desperately needs it.

The True Gift of the Season

Jesus is the ultimate gift to us—given out of pure love. In 2 Corinthians 9:15, Paul writes, “Thanks be to God for His indescribable gift!” This Christmas, may we all remember that the greatest gift we can give isn’t something wrapped in paper, but the gift of love. When we show kindness to others, we share the season’s true meaning.

Scriptures to Inspire Your Heart:

  • 1 John 4:19 – “We love because He first loved us.”
  • Matthew 5:14-16 – “You are the light of the world… Let your light shine before others.”
  • Romans 15:7 – “Accept one another, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.”
  • Galatians 6:9-10 – “Let us not become weary in doing good… Let us do good to all people.”

This Christmas, let’s be the hands and feet of Jesus. This holiday season I pray that as we reflect on the love Christ has shown us, we let that love overflow to others. We never know when our kindness will be the light someone needs.

Merry Christmas!

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Slow Down, Young Blood: 10 Truths About Rushing Adulthood

Have you ever said to yourself, why did I ever rush to get here? And by here I mean adulthood. When we’re young, being “grown” seems like the ultimate goal—a magical land where freedom reigns, and all your dreams come true. But now that I’ve made it here, I’ve got some advice for my younger self. Here are 10 things I’d say to the younger me who couldn’t wait to grow up and the younger generation currently saying, “I can’t wait until…”

1. Adulthood Isn’t Just Freedom—It’s Responsibility

Yes, you’ll get to make your own choices, but every decision comes with consequences. From managing time to choosing a partner, freedom is a package deal with responsibility. And who knew that bills would be relentless? Rent/mortgage, utilities, insurance, car maintenance—they all come due, and they don’t pause just because you’re having a bad month. Budgeting isn’t optional; it’s survival.

2. Enjoy the Time You Have Now

Those endless summer breaks and lazy weekends? You’ll miss them. Once you start working, time off feels rare, so cherish the carefree days while you can. When you’re young, time feels endless. As an adult, weeks blur into months, and years rush by. Make time for the things that truly matter because they will disappear faster than you realize. All good things do come to an end.

3. It’s Okay Not to Have Everything Figured Out

No matter how much planning you do, life often has its own agenda. Feeling lost or unsure about your career, relationships, or goals is more common than you’d think. The key is learning to embrace the journey instead of obsessing over the destination.

4. Cherish Your Friendships

Friends change as life gets busy, but childhood bonds are special. Make memories, share laughs, and enjoy the moments when you can spend hours together without worrying about schedules. As you age, your childhood friends won’t always be a text away. Careers, families, and distance create barriers, so maintaining meaningful friendships requires effort, scheduling, and lots of understanding.

5. Your Body Will Thank You for Taking Care of It Now

At some point, your body will send you “maintenance required” alerts. Gone are the days when you could survive on junk food and bounce back after a late night. Your body demands attention—regular exercise, balanced meals, rest, and yes, those annual checkups. Start healthy habits early—your future self will thank you.

6. Success Doesn’t Equal Happiness

Reaching milestones—whether it’s a promotion or buying a house—won’t automatically make you happy. Neither will chasing wealth. True joy often lies in the little things: meaningful relationships, personal growth, and moments of peace.

7. Comparison Is the Thief of Joy

Social media and societal expectations can make you feel like you’re behind in life. Remember, everyone’s journey is unique, and the timeline isn’t the same for everyone. Your journey is uniquely yours so BE GRATEFUL for each chapter in your beautiful story that God has written.

8. Growth Never Stops…You Will Never “Arrive”

I hate to break it to you, but learning will continue past your formal education. In fact, adulting requires constant discovery—whether it’s professional skills, relationship dynamics, or how to how to navigate a new phase of life. The most important thing you will learn is yourself—your likes and dislikes, what healthy boundaries you need to set with others, and how to be unapologetically you while evolving into the best version of yourself.

9. Failure Is Part of Growth

Adulthood comes with setbacks, and that’s okay. Failing doesn’t mean you’re a failure; it means you’re learning. Be kind to yourself and keep moving forward.

10. Adulthood Will Come Soon Enough—Savor the Now

You’ll be an adult for the majority of your life, so why rush it? Appreciate the simplicity of where you are now. Play, dream, and embrace the freedom to just be.

Adulthood isn’t a destination; it’s an ongoing process of growth, resilience, and discovery. While it can be overwhelming at times, it’s also filled with moments that make the journey worthwhile.

Dear younger me, adulthood has its perks, but so does being young. The future will be here soon enough—don’t forget to live and find joy in each moment you have NOW.

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Caught Between the World and a Hard Place

Have you ever thought to yourself, “How did we get here?” And by here I mean, today’s popular culture.

In a world where the pace of change is relentless and the pressures to conform are ever-present, living out the Christian faith can sometimes feel like navigating between a rock and a hard place. The journey of integrating deeply held spiritual values with the demands of contemporary society is both challenging and profound. 

Today’s society frequently promotes ideals that diverge from or sometimes downright clash with Christian teachings. In an era where success is often measured by wealth, status, and personal gratification, values such as humility, self-sacrifice, and service to others can seem out of place. Social media fosters a culture of comparison and self-promotion, contrasting sharply with Jesus’ call to love others and seek the welfare of the less fortunate.

I’ve found this clash to sometimes create tension in everyday decisions—from navigating workplace ethics to managing personal relationships. The pressure to conform to societal expectations can sometimes lead to moral compromise or a sense of isolation from the broader culture.

But there is good news…always.  There are effective ways to embody the teachings of Jesus while navigating our modern-day life. Here are some practical steps to live more like Jesus while engaging with a world that often celebrates the opposite:

1. Ground Your Life in Prayer and Scripture

Maintaining a strong spiritual foundation through regular prayer and Bible study is essential. Jesus often retreated to pray and sought guidance from God. By immersing ourselves in scripture and staying connected with God, we gain clarity, strength, and wisdom to navigate the complexities of modern life.

2. Embrace Simplicity and Contentment

In a world driven by materialism and instant gratification, choosing simplicity and contentment can be a radical witness. Jesus lived a life of simplicity, and His teachings encourage us to find joy and satisfaction in what we have, rather than constantly seeking more. Reflect on ways to declutter your life and focus on what truly matters—relationships, service, and spiritual growth.

3. Practice Mindful Engagement

Being aware of how digital media affects your spiritual life is crucial. Setting boundaries around screen time, engaging in digital detoxes, and focusing on meaningful, face-to-face interactions can help maintain a balanced life.

4. Serve Others with Compassion

Service to others was at the heart of Jesus’ ministry. Look for opportunities to serve those around you, whether through acts of kindness, volunteering, or supporting charitable causes. By actively seeking to meet the needs of others, you embody Jesus’ love and compassion in a world that often prioritizes self-interest.

5. Cultivate Genuine Community

Despite the digital age’s emphasis on virtual connections, strive to build authentic, face-to-face relationships. Small groups, faith-based communities, or local church gatherings can provide a sense of belonging and accountability.

6. Practice Forgiveness and Grace

The modern world can be harsh and unforgiving, but Jesus calls us to extend grace and forgiveness. Practice forgiving those who wrong you and approach conflicts with a spirit of reconciliation. This can be a powerful testament to Jesus’ teachings in a world often marked by division, animosity, and pettiness.

7. Live with Integrity and Authenticity

Living authentically and with integrity is a powerful witness. Align your actions with your beliefs, even when it’s difficult or unpopular. Your commitment to ethical behavior, honesty, and genuine love can stand out in a culture that sometimes values expediency over truth.

8. Seek Ongoing Growth: Embrace challenges as opportunities for spiritual growth. Reflect on how current trials might be refining your faith and character, and remain open to learning and evolving in your journey.

Living a Christian lifestyle in a modern world that often celebrates contrary values is undoubtedly challenging, but it also offers a profound opportunity for spiritual growth and witness. By remaining steadfast in faith, seeking supportive communities, and navigating the complexities of contemporary life with grace, Christians can find a path that honors their values and resonates with a world in need of hope and compassion.

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Focus on the Good

Have you ever noticed that when you’re in a crappy mood, the more you focus on what put you in that mood, the crappier it becomes? Conversely, the more we revel in the good vibes around us, the better we feel.

Yep, that’s the classic law of attraction at play.

As humans, we sometimes forget the extremely dope gifts our Creator has given us. The chief among them is our ability to create. He’s given us magnificent brains that can reason, deduce, and produce, yet we often choose to settle on the lowest thoughts possible. Why is that?

It doesn’t feel good to settle there, but ironically it is a comfortable place for many of us. And that’s only because of programming, not because God designed us that way. 

Our programming, filled with constant negative news (what I like to call CNN), backbiting, gossip, trash-talking, pettiness, and cancel culture, is what’s keeping most of us from the highest level of thoughts our Creator has given us. But all is not lost. It may take a little more energy, but we don’t have to look very far for “the good” on which to focus our attention.

This scripture implies that we can always find something around us that is pure, lovely, commendable, and ultimately, good. When we focus on those things, we naturally feel better. And when we feel better, we often do better.

By the way, God didn’t promise that if we focus on the good our lives would be perfect. But He promised that if we focused our thoughts on the lovely, excellent, and praiseworthy, we would have peace. And the peace of God, my friends, is invaluable.

So if we found ourselves in a constant state of peace, joy, and contentment, what more could we do, be, and have with that positive energy? A better question…what couldn’t we create?

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Love Lessons

My cousins who were celebrating their 62nd wedding anniversary came to visit my hometown of DC last weekend. That was not a typo. This couple has been married for 62 years. Being the curious person I am, you know I had some questions. I’m sure you can guess the first. “What has kept you together for so long? 

Minnie Lou and Alan Jordan

Before I get to their answers, I should point out that I haven’t written much about love here in Golden Life Musings. When I think about that it strikes me as odd because I like to refer to myself as a hopeful romantic. I love everything about love and romance. The mushy stuff and yes, even the hard parts, because I believe that’s what makes the great parts so beautiful.

Upon reflection, I think it’s because I’ve been waiting for my own love story to manifest. But the truth is, I’ve had a lot of love stories. They just ended more quickly than I envisioned. And while I’m “still single” as society keeps reminding me, I’ve learned many valuable love lessons worth sharing along with the wisdom of my cousins. 

Inspired by my cousin’s love story, I’m sharing 7 love lessons I pray will help you on your own love journey. (The first three are the ones they shared.)

  1. Communicate often. It seems so simple, yet it is also hard to do, especially when you’re in your feelings. Of course, every person has their own communication style, but it is important that when you’re part of a unit, you both communicate well. What does “well” look like you may ask? It looks like being honest and transparent, but also considering the other person’s feelings (no low blows). It’s being vulnerable enough to share when and how the other person has hurt or offended you without casting blame. You know you are communicating well when both parties feel heard and understood, even if there’s still disagreement.
  2. Forgive easily. This is a big one. When you love someone it is never your intention to hurt them, but if you stay together for any length of time chances are, you will. And how well you forgive determines how long you stay together. It is the responsibility of the offender to do their best to change their behavior so that it doesn’t happen again, but it is up to the injured party to forgive and let it go when they do. The longer you hold on to the offenses the harder it becomes to survive and thrive as a couple.
  3. Don’t be quick to quit. I know this is an especially hard one for the current cancel culture in which we live. The word toxic is thrown around so much these days it’s sickening. No pun intended. At the first sign of contention or disagreement, the first words are “I can’t.”  This culture has little to no “sticktoitiveness” (yes it’s a word now, look it up) with anything, much less in matters of love. Let me add, that while there are certainly relationships that are not meant for “til death do us part,” many could have survived if they had the perseverance and the tools. No one wants “struggle love,” but we’ve also got to understand that even the best of relationships have hardship and conflict.
  4. Know when to shut up. Some call it picking your battles. Yes, we should communicate often, but part of communicating is listening and having a discerning tongue. I admit, I haven’t quite mastered this one. And let me point out that none of us have mastered all of these lessons, including my cousins. That’s why you need the previous point and the next point. We are all a work in progress that will never be perfect.
  5. Give grace. You get to choose your mate but you don’t get to choose their flaws. Even if someone has everything you want in a mate, congratulations, you will also have some things you didn’t ask for – good and bad. The stuff you don’t like requires grace. And if you can’t accept their bad parts with the good parts, you should probably move along. There are always things we can improve upon and loving correction is useful. However, constantly highlighting the other’s faults and beating them up for those faults is the quickest way to sour a relationship.
  6. Love them while you have them. All love stories, even the good ones, come to an end. Since none of us know that end date, you should do something to make that person feel loved every day. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard both women and men speak with regret about what they could or should have done after a relationship has ended. If you chose them, show love to them. Because we each receive and give love differently, we must study and practice our partner’s love languages to ensure we love them effectively.
  7. Love yourself first. This may seem counterintuitive or self-centered to some, but having had the experience of loving someone who didn’t love himself I know all too well the value of it. When you love yourself you show up as a whole, complete person to your mate. God’s greatest commandment is in Matthew 22 where Jesus says, “You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: Love your neighbor as yourself.” If He calls us to love others as we love ourselves, we must first know how to love ourselves. It’s nearly impossible to love someone else well without that first love in action.

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The Present Matters

In 2022 Mom and I started what has now become an annual tradition of spending the month of January on a beautiful little island country named Anguilla. To say that it is completely restorative and refreshing would be accurate, and also an understatement. This time away has become necessary for my overall well-being.

It is during these retreats I have been the most reflective and in turn, inspired. On this trip, I have thought a lot about what it means to be present. To me, it means being fully attuned and connected to the moment of now. 

Mom taking a moment to soak in all the beautiful scenery in Anguilla, even on a cloudy day.

The time away, which consists of longer periods spent disconnected from technology, always allows me to savor the “right now” moments in my life. In fact, we can call this blog post a Part 2 to Right Now, a post I wrote two years ago almost to the day. As I reflect on the contribution that our devices have had on our growing inability to appreciate the present, I can’t help but consider how we got here.

For a moment it seemed that the global shutdown helped us in that it forced us to interact more with our loved ones at home. However, one of the many ways that it did more harm than good is that it reinforced and exacerbated our deep dependence on technology.  

We have become so tethered to technology that many of us have forgotten how to be with each other. We use our devices as a crutch during silent moments. Our conversations are often interrupted by the sudden pings of not just our phones, but our smartwatches, which keep us constantly “connected.” Sadly, however, we’ve never been more disconnected. Our fixation with our gadgets has in many ways made introverted people more introverted and even caused extroverts to become introverted. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not criticizing introversion. But when it happens at the expense of our abilities as humans to communicate with each other and appreciate what is happening right in front of us “offline,” Houston, we have a problem.

How did we get here?

One click…

One like…

One text…

One post…

One binge…

One emoji…

One reel…

At a time.

So how do we coexist with and benefit from technology while also remaining present to and focused on the beautiful moments in front of us? It probably looks different for each person, but I’ll start with a few of my own new habits.

  1. Setting boundaries around my technology. This includes keeping my phone on silent, only answering or responding during designated times throughout the day, and not letting every little ping interrupt me from what I’m focused on in the moment. It might even include at some point purposely leaving my phone behind at times. *Insert Gasp here.*
  2. Asking myself, “What is the present moment inviting me to notice or be aware of?” Searching for the beauty in each moment we get here on Earth helps me to value each minute I have. I’ve found most times, I don’t have to look very far for the beauty around me. It’s often in the people I’ve been overlooking when my face is buried in one of my devices.
  3. Changing scenery every so often. Going away to places like Anguilla is awesome, but not practical for everyday living. I’ve found that even just working from a new place in my house from time to time gives me a newfound perspective. And with a newfound perspective comes another opportunity to see hidden gems around me.

I always thought wasting time was about doing something pointless or unnecessary. Now I see the worst type of time wasted is experiencing each precious day on Earth that we’ll never get back again and not being fully present to the beauty of the things and the people around us.

We’ve seen movies and TV shows that point to the threat of technology completely taking over our lives. And yet, we seem to be completely unbothered by the fact that fiction is slowly but surely becoming our truth. 

So how do we fix it? I’m not here to judge or attempt to provide an answer because truth is, I’ve certainly been complicit in technology’s takeover. It’s a rhetorical question, but one I hope encourages all of us to ponder the individual roles we have in reclaiming our gift of the present. Because it is, in fact, a gift; and it matters to our humanity.

Tis the Season to Be Grateful 

I’ve had two revelations recently. One – the more I age, the more I realize how little I know about this world. Sure, I’ve become wiser, as we all should as we age. But the more I know, the more I realize how little I know in comparison to all there is to know under God’s sovereignty. Before I get all philosophical and Ecclesiastes on you – because that’s not what this post is about – let me share the second revelation. With each holiday season, the less I want and the more grateful I am for what I already have.

I’ve made this personal because it’s my blog, but I have a sneaking suspicion that I’m not the only one who’s had this revelation. And while I said I was moving on from Ecclesiastes, I do want to point out something so wise, yet simple and still very relevant that King Solomon wrote in his nearly three-thousand-year-old segment of scripture. Most of what we treasure is meaningless anyway. Well, he said “everything,” but I’m trying to be a little less dramatic.

Before you get the wrong impression though, let me share why this revelation is so encouraging and full of hope. God has already given us the greatest and most valuable gift in the world. We don’t have to wait for it, nor do we have to do any toiling or spending to get it. We already have it. And that “it” I’m referring to is Jesus, in case you didn’t already know. Despite how cliche it sounds, it doesn’t make it any less true – He is in fact, the reason for the season.

I’ve believed in and accepted the gift of Jesus, and the Holy Spirit He left here with me as evidence of His presence for some time now. But the more I’ve gotten to know Him and about Him, the more I value Him and His sacrifice. And the more I value Him, the less value I place on the “stuff” of this world. And that is a gift in and of itself. It’s actually freeing to be more tied to Him and less tethered to the things of this world. 

But, let me be clear. I truly appreciate and am grateful for all the “things of this world” that God has allowed me to have. They have certainly made life more comfortable than it could have been without them. What this revelation has provided me with though, is perspective. And I think we could all benefit from a little of that.

Transparently, this perspective has helped me navigate this very uncertain and uncomfortable season I’ve found myself in recently. Without it, I honestly don’t know how I’d feel. But, what I do know is that I’m grateful. I’m more grateful than I ever have been. And yet, I have less than what I’ve had in other seasons of my life, from a worldly point of view.

I’m sharing this because I know that the more commercialized this season becomes, the harder it is for us to see what really matters, not just for the season, but in life. I hope my revelation has either reminded or ignited in you a fresh perspective that fosters gratitude. Whether you have a little or a lot of what the world has to offer, it truly always is the season to be grateful.  

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